The house is spotless. Enticing aromas waft from the kitchen and the dining table groans under the weight of a sumptuous meal. The children are (were) spotless and the doorbell rings.
The family has arrived! Grandparents come in with hugs and kisses for everyone, at least two or three times around. Uncle Harry walks in carrying packages. Aunts, uncles and cousins fill the house until the walls bulge.
Children love family gatherings. It is exciting to hear stories of their parents’ and grandparents’ childhoods, where they grew up and how they lived.
Although it is tempting to prompt your child to talk or perform, it is better to begin a conversation about an interest your child has and allow her to join in when she is ready. If Sally loves the herb garden, you might begin “The basil came from our herb garden” and let Sally add to the conversation if she chooses.
For some children, family gatherings can be uncomfortable. The house is full of guests, other children want to play with his toys and everyone is making so much noise! You can prepare your child by telling him a story about the upcoming family gathering. Draw pictures to illustrate. If possible, have a spot where he can be alone if the activity is too much for him.
Cynthia Rylant has a delightful series of books written about life in Appalachia . One of my favorites is “The Relatives Came.” It is a warm and funny depiction of a large family gathering. You can read more about Cynthia Rylant here: http://childrensbooks.about.com/cs/authorsillustrato/a/cynthiarylant.htm
These suggestions can help your family gatherings be a pleasure for you and your child.
